Here you'll find my thoughts on fitness, humanity, nature, nutrition, politics, reason, science and critical thinking.

“Any man who can drive safely while kissing a pretty girl is simply not giving the kiss the attention it deserves.” -Albert Einstein

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Le don d'organes à la mort devrait être obligatoire.

Les organes peuvent être utilisé pour sauver une vie ou améliorer la qualité de vie d'une autre personne. Il n'y a aucune raison valable pour que le don d'organe automatique ne soit pas déjà en place depuis longtemps.

Il ne devrait pas y avoir le choix de s'objecter pour des raisons personnelles qui sont plus souvent qu'autrement des raisons religieuses. C'est pas à la société de s’accommoder au croyances de certains, si ces personnes ont des croyances qui leurs causent des ennuis envers la société c'est leurs choix et en aucun temps ils ne devraient être accommodés si ces raisons sont sous le parapluie des superstitions et du surnaturel (ce qui inclus les religions).

L'objection que cela est oppressifs est absurde, est-ce que nous accepterions que les chrétiens et les musulmans commencent à tuer tout les apostats? Non, cela serait un meurtre, pourtant c'est clair dans chacune de ces religions que tuer les apostats est un devoir. Il y a une multitude de "lois" (esclavage, femme soumise à l'homme, etc...) dans ces livres qui ne sont plus acceptés de nos jours, même par la majorité des croyants, heureusement la raison et le bon sens de ces gens a supplanté le surnaturel.

Les croyances qui sont basés sur la tradition, l’autorité et la révélation n'ont aucun droit d’ingérence dans une société. Nous avons évolués moralement, il est temps que cela soit mis en pratique politiquement et le don d'organes automatique fait parti de cette évolution, des vies en comptes.

Sunday, March 13, 2011

La passion est une pulsion. L'amour est une décision.

Ceci est un résumé en mes propres mots d'un article paru dans le Journal de Montréal.

C'est la meilleure réflexion que j'ai lu sur le sujet, alors je la partage avec vous.

La passion est une pulsion:

L'attraction physique et le plaisir sexuelle sont surtout biochimique (phéromones), beaucoup plus que psychologique. Quand nous somme avec une personne désiré notre corps sécrète des hormones (dopamine, phényléthylamine, ocytocine...) qui provoquent en nous des sensations fantastiques; comme exemple, la sensations de "tomber en amour" et de "perdre le contrôle". En fait, nous ne sommes pas en amour, nous sommes "drogués" par notre propres corps, ce qui veut dire que c'est temporaire et comme tout drogues l'impulsion passionnelle diminue avec le temps. C'est pourquoi les passionnés changent continuellement de partenaire, leur moyenne est de 3 ans par relation.

L'amour est une décision:

L'amour quant à lui est un sentiment et non une sensation ou une émotion. Le sentiment d'aimer est le résultat d'une réflexion basée sur la connaissance de la personne qui a été la source de tant de sensations et d'émotions agréables. Cette connaissance ce fait seulement quand chacun se présente sous son vrai jour. L'amour se développe donc, ou non au moment où la passion commence à diminuer. 


Le véritable amour est fait de sentiments et d'altruisme, et non de vouloir vivre "drogué" de passion 24/7... c'est impossible.

L'amour au quotidien avec ses moments de passions hebdomadaires, voilà une relation saine et réaliste.

Vous pouvez lire l'article ici: L'amour est une décision - Yvon Dallaire (Psychologue)
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Saturday, January 15, 2011

10 Things You Lose When You Commit In A Relationship... Really ?

I just read an article written on AskMen.com by a women who describes 10 things men (supposedly) lose when they enter a relationship. I felt obliged to post a rebuttal and send it to her via email.

10 - One of my male friends recently got into a verbal tussle with his girlfriend over how often he texts his female friends. There’s no doubt that changes and issues do occur in your friendships when you get a girlfriend -- especially female friendships. You won’t be able to spend as much time with or text the girls like you used to, because those friendships tend to get nudged down a few rungs of the ladder. Why? Your girlfriend is in the No. 1 spot now. Any other women have to understand that she gets most of you, and they have to be satisfied with the leftovers.

Answer: The whole point of a girlfriend is to place her in the #1 spot. That's a choice.

09 - Free time you’d enjoy by kicking back and cracking open a beer used to be completely yours, but now that you’re in a serious relationship, it’s highly likely that quality time with your significant other will be squeezing into the time you'd been meaning to set aside for yourself. After all, with both of you working during the week, there’s not much chance to spend time together. That’s why the prestigious weekend is often filled with relationship quality time.

Answer: Men who want a girlfriend tend to do so with the idea of spending time with her, yes it means less (not lost) time for other things but again that's a choice that should be happily made, so it's not a loss.

08 - Flirting is the first thing to die when it comes to casual fun and relationships. In fact, those two concepts often get along as badly as Mike Tyson and Evander Holyfield in a boxing ring. When you’re in a serious relationship, there are boundaries for interaction with other women. Flirting has to be contained, otherwise it could explode into something inappropriate. As for casual fun with your partner, a full-fledged, committed relationship calls to mind things like responsibilities, obligations and routine. It’s very easy to lose the easygoing fun in the process.

Answer: If you lose casual fun in a relationship then you're in the wrong relationship, it's one of the best parts! As far as boundaries with others, it's a choice one should happily make out of respect for their partner.

07 - You used to be able to do whatever you pleased. If that included excessive smoking, drinking and staying out till dawn, there was nobody you had to answer to. But now when you stumble back home after a raucous night with the boys, you’re likely to find your girlfriend standing at the door with “Where the hell were you?” kinds of questions. If you’re committed to your girlfriend, you have to realize that you can’t be partying excessively the way you would when you were single. It might sound hectic, but being in a serious setup means you have to account for your actions -- because if she was getting home at 3 a.m. totally wasted, you'd start asking yourself the same questions. So if you want wild time with the boys, you’ll probably have to run it past her and schedule it in

Answer: Fun with other friends works if planned ahead and not made a priority over her (it goes both ways). The writer ends up giving the solution, communication!

06 - When things were less serious with your woman, it was much easier to find the exits than it is now. If things went pear-shaped fast, you could evacuate the building without much fuss because you weren’t too tied to each other yet. But now with all the emotional bindings, it makes clean breakups a bit more difficult. 

Answer: If you're not in a relationship you don't have an exit in the first place. There is no in between.

05 - Often relationships don’t end only with emotional ties; they can also incorporate financial ones. It’s common to lapse into a “What’s mine is yours, what’s yours is mine” line of thinking when you’re in a serious affair. Basically, if you’re committed, then you share each other’s financial situations. Considering men still out-earn women, a good portion of your hard-earned cash is likely to head in your girlfriend’s direction. 

Answer: If she means some of my money heading in her direction in the sense of "spoiling" her, then yes she's right but in my case I enjoy doing it so it's a gain for me (as long as she appreciates it).
If she takes it for granted and the man sticks around then he's an idiot.

04 - They say a man is as faithful as his options. It’s not necessarily true that you’ll stay loyal to your girlfriend only until you meet someone better, but let’s be honest: It’s a boost to the ego to know that you still have pulling power, even if you don’t intend to use it. But with an exclusive relationship, you’re much more limited to this one relationship. Even window-shopping can prove boring. What’s the point of looking when you know it can’t go anywhere?

Answer: Why go anywhere else when you've chosen the best?
As for looking, I don't have a million dollar home (nor do I want one) so I should not look at it?

03 - It’s not selfish to want to safeguard your future plans and have your own dreams. In fact, it’s necessary to have those, even when you’re in a relationship. But once things become more serious with your girl, there is no room for secret gambits; you’ll have to include her in all your ideas for the future.

Answer: No one needs to lose oneself in a relationship, some things both we'll prefer doing on there own. As long as the couple does not suffer from it it's fine, in fact they'll usually gain from it.

02 - Every king needs a castle, but if you bring a queen into the situation, then things can become a tad complicated. Often commitment is closely linked to cohabitation, which can drastically reduce your privacy. Soon you’ll find feminine products in the bathroom cabinets, the arrival of kitchen utensils that you can’t even name and her votes counting more in castle decisions. Yep, it might feel like she’s making a play for your throne -- but we wager that would happen no matter who you move in with. And living with your girlfriend is probably going to bring certain benefits to the table that a boring old roommate never would. (Can you say back rubs?)

Answer: It also means sexy clothing lying around! As for kitchen stuff... Bring it! It can only mean good food, well worth the extra dishes to be cleaned. As well, a kingdom is better shared.

01 - When you first got together, you and your partner shared interests, values and some hobbies. The similarities thankfully ended there. But now it seems you’re merging identities. Though it can be a good feeling to be in sync with your partner on various levels (but stick to your own closets unless you want to become Brangelina), it can also mean losing your individualism a little bit. Say no to the relationship clones, and don't be afraid to retain your own sense of self -- even if it means that you guys have rules about not sharing the same toothbrush (sensible) or sleeping in separate rooms (maybe less so).

Answer: In a healthy relationship you'll learn more about yourself from your partner than if you were alone.

Final comment:

The whole point of commitment is you prefer the life you will have with her than the life you had without.

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Friday, December 31, 2010

Prenez la résolution d'aimer votre conjoint(e) au quotidien

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Chaque nouvelle années les gens entreprennent des résolutions, une qu'on entend pas souvent (si jamais) c'est celle de dire qu'on prendra plus conscience de son ou sa conjointe. Au début d'une relation les gens démontre leur amour, leur admiration et leur désir sans y penser.

Avec les années il faut prendre le temps d'être conscient qu'il faut démontrer sont amour. Les gens prennent pour acquis que l'autre le "sais", ce qui n'est pas le cas, ne rien dire c'est faire ressentir un indifférence totale envers la personne aimée.

Il y a rien de plus simple que prendre un moment chaque jour pour rappeler à cette personne qu'on l'aime, qu'on l'admire et qu'on le ou la désire.

L'amour peut-être démontré par un simple regard profond dans les yeux en lui disant "je t'aime".

L'admiration peut être aussi facile que prendre le temps d'écouter attentivement ce que votre conjoint(e) à vécu comme journée.

Le désir peut venir du contact humain avec une profonde caresse, une simple main sur les fesses :) et sans oublier des compliments verbaux.

Alors je vous invite à prendre la résolution de nourrir votre amour de couple au quotidien. Et la meilleure partie? C'est vraiment PLAISANT à faire!


Felix sit annus novus!

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This year make a resolution to cherish your couple on a daily basis.

Every new year people make resolutions, one we rarely hear (if ever) is the one about being more attentive to our significant other.

At the beginning of a relationship people show their love, admiration and desire on a daily basis without thinking about it. With time this is no longer automatic, we must make a conscious action to demonstrate our affection on a daily basis. People often take it for granted the other "knows", which is not the case, doing nothing makes the other feel indifferent.

Nothing is easier than simply taking a moment everyday to remind the person we cherish all the love, admiration and desire we feel for this person.

Love can be demonstrated by a profound look in their eyes and simply saying "I love you".

Admiration can be shown by simply listening attentively as your partner talks about their day.

Desire can come from human contact by simply holding the other in one's arms for a moment, or a hand on a butt cheek :) and let's not forget verbal compliments.

So I invite you to make it a new years resolution to nourish your relationship on a daily basis. And the best part is? It's FUN to do!

Felix sit annus novus!

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Thursday, August 12, 2010

Life should be backwards.

I came upon this yesterday and it remains my favorite skit from Seinfeld, the end is the kicker! ;-)

The most unfair thing about life is the way it ends. I mean, life is tough. It takes up a lot of your time. What do you get at the end of it? A death. What’s that, a bonus?!?! I think the life cycle is all backwards. You should die first, get it out of the way. Then you go live in an old age home. You get kicked out for being too healthy, go collect your pension, then, when you start work, you get a gold watch on your first day. You work forty years until you’re young enough to enjoy your retirement. You drink alcohol, you party, and you get ready for high school. You go to primary school, you become a kid, you play, you have no responsibilities. You become a little baby, you go back, spend your last 9 months floating with luxuries like central heating, spa, room service on tap, then you finish off as an orgasm! Amen.”


- George Costanza (Fictional character from the TV series Seinfeld played by Jason Alexander)

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